We Receive What we Invest in, in our Lives!
We can only receive what we can allow ourselves to receive and this is completely proportionate to what we believe, think, feel and how we act towards what it is we want to attract.
If we want to attract more money to our lives; we must first learn how to water and nurture that area, which usually requires some form of transformation or resetting our minds regarding money!
How is our mental blueprint formed?
We need to think of our minds as computers – highly advanced computers – that are programmed from the time of our conception to think, believe and ultimately make choices and take actions, based on those thoughts and beliefs.
Essentially, our money blueprint (Ecker) is based on the program we’ve received in the past from parents, authority figures, teachers, media, culture, religious leaders, etc regarding our thoughts and attitudes towards money. Their ways of thinking about money, became ours.
The following outline is my summary of what Harvey T. Ecker lectures about in his 6 part series on our Money Blueprint; here are the ways in which we have been programmed to think about money:
Verbal: Phrases and messages we heard when we were young, such as: “Money is the root of all evil!” “You can’t be rich and spiritual” “Money can’t buy happiness!” “We can’t afford it!”
Modeling: What we saw when we were young – what model or example did our parents establish for us? Was money a source of joy or bitter arguments? What happens to us when we see our parents or people we respect act towards money? “Monkey see, monkey do!” Ecker says, “humans aren’t far behind.” We either model what our parents taught us through their example or we do the exact opposite because we are angry or in opposition to being like our parents.
Specific Incidents: What did we experience (emotional charges) around money, success and rich people? We validate what we are taught in our adult lives. For example, if we witnessed examples of conflict over money, conflict regarding money will ultimately show up in our lives. Perhaps, we watched our parents receive money only to have it taken or lost in the form of an emergency in the family or something in the house needed to be repaired. We grow up believing that money will go out as quickly as it comes in and we will continue to create or attract scenarios where this exact phenomenon keeps happening to us.
How do we reset our Money Thermostat?
Ecker uses the comparison between our mental blueprint about money and a thermostat. If the thermostat is set to maintain the house at 72 degrees and someone comes and opens a window and lets the cold air in – no matter what, the thermostat will kick-in and drive the temperature back up to 72 degrees. If we set the thermostat in the summer to keep us cool and it becomes very hot outside, the thermostat or central air will again kick-in to bring the temperature down and maintain it at what we have programmed it.
Ecker says this is exactly the same with our mental thermostat regarding many issues – particularly our thoughts about what we “need” in order to be comfortable or happy. If we grew up poor or middle class, we were most likely programmed that just getting by or being able to pay our bills with some left over for entertainment is “living comfortably” and guess what? That’s all our thermostat will ever allow us to be – comfortable, but not wealthy and not abundant. Hence, we need to reset our internal thermostat.
How do we do this?
First we must understand that we are made up of four elements: Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, and Physical and whatever is going on in the M. E. and S. will manifest itself in the Physical realm.
Beliefs (Spiritual) = Thoughts (Mental) = Feelings (Emotional) = Our Actions and Our Results
Before we can begin to change our Money Thermostat, we must first learn how rich people think. Here are some basic rules, Ecker outlines that we must follow before we do anything else:
1. Stop judging rich people – give up the beliefs that “rich people are greedy or selfish” and simply observe and begin to appreciate how they think. Replace our old programming with new statements:
Rich people are Cheap = Rich people are generous
It takes money to make money = It takes creativity to make money
I’m too old to make a change = I am able to learn new skills
I can’t be rich and nice = I am rich and a nice person
2. Give up the victim stance and take full responsibility for our own financial situation (stop blaming the economy, others, high interest rates, our parents, etc.)
3. Take Ownership over our lives and financial situation: “I create my life!” vs. “life happens to me!”
4. Stop justifying that we don’t need money, can just get by, just want to be comfortable or that money isn’t that important.
5. What we focus on, EXPANDS, therefore focus on what’s RIGHT in our lives – not’s what wrong!
6. Immediately, stop complaining! Complaining = garbage magnet!
All change begins with Awareness and with new thinking comes new results!
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