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Book Release: L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy

Book Release: L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy

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Book Synopsis:

In order to attract our inner most desires, we must learn to change the stories of our lives. These stories—which are often a result of messages that were planted within our subconscious minds when we were very young, have become ingrained within us—creating fear, worry and anxiety—which often act as obstacles in our lives.

L.O.V.E: Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy is a compilation of reflections, theories and practical applications that help people to understand their ingrained programming and ultimately equip them with the power to re-program their thoughts, words, actions and change the way in which they approach their world at large.

If you want to be free of your limiting beliefs and begin to live the life you’ve imagined, open this book and delve into the wisdom and secrets of your own subconscious mind and become no longer a slave to your thoughts, but their master! Thereby, attracting more love, prosperity and success to your everyday life.

L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy

LOVE Cover

Available at

www.amazon.com

http://www.barnesandnoble.com/s/tanya-m-cooper?keyword=tanya+m+cooper&store=book

http://www.tanyamcooper.com

http://www.publishamerica.net/product53922.html

L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy 

Synopsis

In order to attract our inner most desires, we must learn to change the stories of our lives. These stories—which are often a result of messages that were planted within our subconscious minds when we were very young, have become ingrained within us—creating fear, worry and anxiety—which often act as obstacles in our lives.

L.O.V.E: Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy is a compilation of reflections, theories and practical applications that help people to understand their ingrained programming and ultimately equip them with the power to re-program their thoughts, words, actions and change the way in which they approach their world at large.

If you want to be free of your limiting beliefs and begin to live the life you’ve imagined, open this book and delve into the wisdom and secrets of your own subconscious mind and become no longer a slave to your thoughts, but their master! Thereby, attracting more love, prosperity and success to your everyday life.

Tanya M. Cooper’s Book Release – L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy

LOVE Cover

L.O.V.E. Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy

Synopsis

In order to attract our inner most desires, we must learn to change the stories of our lives. These stories—which are often a result of messages that were planted within our subconscious minds when we were very young, have become ingrained within us—creating fear, worry and anxiety—which often act as obstacles in our lives.

L.O.V.E: Live a Life Of Vibrant Energy is a compilation of reflections, theories and practical applications that help people to understand their ingrained programming and ultimately equip them with the power to re-program their thoughts, words, actions and change the way in which they approach their world at large.

If you want to be free of your limiting beliefs and begin to live the life you’ve imagined, open this book and delve into the wisdom and secrets of your own subconscious mind and become no longer a slave to your thoughts, but their master! Thereby, attracting more love, prosperity and success to your everyday life.

How to Attract Love – Part 3 of Top 5 Expert Series

man holding a door for a woman

First of all, as I previously mentioned in Blog # 19, love is within us and flows through us at all times. We do not need to look for it.   The irony of searching for love is that the less we look for it and the more we extend it to our fellow humans, the more we attract it.

1.  If you are looking for a loving partner, the quickest way is to become a loving partner and remind yourself every day of who you are and what is loving about you.  Many times, we don’t really feel like we deserve love and so we attract people who give us just that – less than what we truly deserve.

2.  Write down or think about all the things that you love – or maybe those people closest to you – love about you.  Change your affirmation from “I am attracting a loving partner” to “I am a loving partner” or “I am love” and see what happens.

3.  Throw out your list of what you are looking for in another person and write how YOU are already those things – we probably should not ask for anything from someone else if we are not able to give it ourselves.

4.  Write a new list that includes the other person in it.  For example, instead of writing “I want someone with a good sense of humour“, write “My partner and I have fun, laugh together and get each other’s jokes.”  Include the person you want to meet in your list so that he/she also gains from the experience and will be attracted to come and join you in this wonderful, fun life of yours!  I  provide an entire list in my previous Blog # 10 Love: Self-Love Brings Every Kind of Love.

5.  I have found that sitting around in my apartment on online dating rarely brings me the partner I am looking for – sure it brings me lots of dates – but I have come to the conclusion that if I am looking for someone who loves to ski, bike, be active, is funny and intelligent, I need to close my laptop, and get there and already be enjoying and doing those things myself.

I have joined skiing clubs, biking clubs as well as Organizations such as  a Toastmasters Public Speaking group – not to meet someone – but because I love doing these things and the truth is when we are amidst the things we love and we are working from that loving and excited frequency, we will naturally attract more of the same.

If we are sitting alone in our homes on the computer trying to find love (and yes, some people have found it this way, although I suspect they are also out there in their community keeping busy at the other times) and we never go out, guess what?  We will attract that same kind of person.  I did.  I attracted someone who, although he wrote in his profile that he travelled and skiied, he failed to mention that he hadn’t done either since he was in highschool!

So who are the top 5 Experts on Attracting Love:

1.  Buddha:  “Always be mindful of the kindness and not the faults of others.”

Buddha’s words are so true.  I cannot stress enough that if you are constantly complaining (mindless) about your last date – or your last ten dates or hanging around with friends that are doing this, stop it now!  To be mindful is to be conscious of how we are speaking because it directly correlates to what we are attracting.  If we are focusing on what is wrong with us, wrong with people in general or wrong with the opposite gender, we are doing ourselves and others a disservice.  None of this – not one word of it – attracts love into our lives.

What does attract it?  Words of kindness, smiling, being positive about ourselves (even if we hate our thighs) and the world around us.  Search for and find what is beautiful and loving in the world around you.  If you have always wanted to attract a partner who brings you flowers, go out and buy freshly cut flowers for yourself.  Do for yourself everything you imagine that a partner would do for you. This sends out loving messages to you, your world and to others and it will attract love far faster than anything negative you could possibly say.  If you do have a negative experience and must vent, write a letter to that “bad date” and be done with it.  Even when you share negative feelings about the opposite gender to your friends, you are also contaminating their energy field regarding love.

2.  What Dr. Lisa Love (Best Selling Author – Attract & Keep Real Love) says of how to attract love: 

To attract love, you must be love.  It’s true, most people don’t have love in their lives, because in truth they don’t know what love is.  They confuse love for lust, infatuation, addiction, neediness, codependency, and even abuse.  No wonder “love” leads to so much suffering and pain.  But, it doesn’t have to be that way.” 

3.  What does Marianne Williamson (Author of  the bestselling books The Age of Miracles and A Return to Love) say about attracting love:
“In the realm of thought, there are two main categories: thoughts of love and thoughts of fear. Every single moment, we choose between the two. If I think with love, then I am more likely to behave lovingly and to attract love from others. If my heart is closed, I am more likely to act out of fear. Fear-based  behavior tends not to look like fear but like anger or jealousy; it elicits  reactions from others that reflect my fear and not my love.”

4.  What does Robin Mastro (an environmental designer and artist dedicated to bringing balance  and harmony into people’s lives through ancient systems of wisdom) say about attracting love:

How to strengthen your relationship with Mr. or Mrs. Right using gems and  stones. (From Making Room for Mr. Right by Robin and Michael  Mastro).  Gems That Enhance Loving Relationships :There are specific  gems and stones that balance and support loving relationships, especially  between you and Mr. Right. Some of the more common stones can be placed in the  bedroom, in a small decorative bowl or in a saucer on your nightstand by the  bed. You can create a collection of a variety of complementary stones, too.  Stones can be purchased as larger pieces for display, or they can be worn as  beads in a necklace, bracelet, or ring and kept on your Relationship Altar in  your offering tray when you are not wearing them.  Rose quartz promotes romantic love as well as self-love and  acceptance.

Read more: http://www.tipsonlifeandlove.com/love-and-relationships/10-gems-that-attract-and-enhance-love#ixzz2HCyrCcKf

5.  What does Lori Deschene (Founder of Tiny Buddha  and  Tiny Wisdom eBook Series and worked for Oprah’s Life Classsay about attracting love:

The following are a few affirmations she includes in her website where you can view all of her affirmations about a number of topics, including finding and attracting love.

1.  I know that to fill the love tank of others, I must first fill my own….Mine should be on overflow to have enough to share.

 2.  The point in sharing your life with someone isn’t to have them make your life better, but to keep you company as you do it yourself.

3. The energy we attract is what we subconsciously feel we deserve.

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/60-life-lessons-insights-from-oprahs-life-class/

***Even though these five experts offer very different methods and modalities for attracting love, they all say the same thing – first you must find the love within – the energy of love within you.  Find compassion and love for yourself by not only saying loving things but doing loving things for yourself, like spending that money on the spa or for those activities you love and by helping others which sends out more vibrational love to the Universe, and will automatically begin to attract more of it to your life.  Just remember that in the beginning, it may not attract Prince/Princess Charming – it may come to you in the form of someone from the opposite gender holding the door for you or smiling at you – recognize that it is a prelude of better things and return the favour!   God bless you on your journey to love!  Be comforted to know that you have enough love within you right now to fill up your entire room – if you tap into it.

Next Blog:  Top 5 Experts on How to Lift Your Vibrational Energy Regarding Love and all your Desires) and what does Javier Bardem,  James Bond and Skyfall have to do with any of it?   

Affirming What You Want – Part 5 of Top 10 Series

Change Ahead

Journey of a Thousand Steps Begin with a Single Step

I am watering the flower today…by beginning with my mantra that is my end goal.  I wish to be financially prolific so that I can travel and write at leisure.  I challenge you to think about what it is that you want your final goal to be – is it an overall feeling of freedom or a specific goal or manifestation such as a new car or home or relationship.  Choose your end goal and then begin to work backwards from there.

#1:   It is even better when you can include the word NOW within your mantra, because every time you write, “I want” or “I will have” your subconscious hears the longing for something in the future and almost always will keep you in the “want” or “will have” position.  You have to program your subconscious to believe that you already have what you desire and that you are grateful for having it.   Then your subconscious will begin to go about sending out vibrational energy in order to manifest whatever it takes towards your overall goal.

#2:   In addition, think of an adjective that conveys emotion as the universe is not simply responding to your words, but the positive vibrational energy you are sending out into the world.

#3:  Always include a reference to your health.  Our subconscious at the very base level, is most concerned with our health and survival.  Hence, it automatically keeps all of our internal organs working, our heart beating and our brain active even when we are asleep.  So when we pair our desire with the fact that having it will bring out a more peaceful or joyful or healthy existence for us, our subconscious works even harder to bring it about.  Here is my example.

It is EASY, HEALTHY and JOYFUL for me  NOW to be  financially FREE to TRAVEL and to WRITE!  Thank you!

It is EASY, HEALTHY and JOYFUL for me  NOW to be  financially FREE to TRAVEL and to WRITE!  Thank you!

It is EASY, HEALTHY and JOYFUL for me  NOW to be  financially FREE to TRAVEL and to WRITE!  Thank you!

It is EASY, HEALTHY and JOYFUL for me  NOW to be  financially FREE to TRAVEL and to WRITE!  Thank you!

It is EASY, HEALTHY and JOYFUL for me  NOW to be  financially FREE to TRAVEL and to WRITE!  Thank you!

Attracting Love: Part 2 of Top 5 Series

Stop Complaining

Rejoicing in Love

For the past six years I have been technically single – meaning I have dated for a few months but have not been in a long-term relationship.  Why is that?  Good question.  It isn’t because I haven’t desired it. It isn’t because I haven’t attracted a lot of people in which to date.  It’s probably a combination of a number of things.

What are the obstacles that we create for ourselves when it comes to manifesting a loving relationship?

#1:  Negative Affirmations:  

One obstacle that I created for myself is that while I was writing and saying affirmations that I wanted to find a great person to love; I spent a lot of my time commiserating with girlfriends about my awful dates – which of course, only attracted more awful dates in which to confirm my “stuck” belief that dating is not fun.  I had to change my perspective about dating and to be sure that I was affirming I wanted great dates with great people more than I was commiserating.

#2:  Negative Beliefs: 

Negative Beliefs are more difficult to change or uproot than simply changing our words.  These are sometimes deeply rooted beliefs from our childhood or from our past experiences and are often associated and tangled with emotions that are stored in our memories and in our bodies.  For example, if someone has wounded you by being unfaithful to you and you have not fully addressed it, healed from it and forgiven the person in completeness, you still have a wound that is not fully healed.  It may have scabbed over; but underneath it is still infection and we all know what happens when infection brews beneath the surface.  It can then seep into the rest of our body and create havoc in many other areas.  This is why it is imperative to be true to ourselves and face our anger or sadness around this area.  How can we believe that we will attract a partner who is faithful if we still have infection from the last hurtful experience brewing beneath the surface?  The only way is to become aware of it, talk about it with someone and work through the pain until we can ultimately and truly forgive the hurt.

# 3:  Fear:

This is similar to the previous obstacle in that a lot of fear we have originates in our childhood or past experiences where we are taught to fear certain things, whether that be love or success or prosperity. Often we are taught that if we actually do possess these things they will be taken away from us.  A too good to be true type of mentality.  Many people, when things are going really well in their lives become fearful that something bad is going to happen.  This is a normal and human response to our anxiety driven environment.  We are so used to having stress, anxiety or worry in our lives that when things alleviate and we actually find ourselves happy or at peace, there is an automatic response in our minds that something bad must be going to happen.  This in turn, gives us something to worry about and therefore reinstates the “state” in which we’ve become accustomed.  This is not a normal or natural state in that we are meant to be at peace and be happy.  We are meant to commune with nature and run through grassy fields jumping for joy. Hence, when we escape to the quiet woods or serene waters, we feel this way, if only briefly until our minds take us from our present moment of peace to an internal world of chaotic thinking.  When you find yourself happy or at peace, do not fret.  It is not that something bad is going to happen next.  It is that a part of your brain feels compelled to be stressed or worry about something and so it creates that very thing.  The best thing to do when you find this happening is to thank your mind for working so hard and then instantly begin an affirmation in response to it such as, “I am deserving of happiness and peace and all is well in my life.”  Repeat this until your mind settles down and begins to feel at peace.  Repeat as needed!

 # 4:  Unforgiveness: 

Unforgiveness is the number one reason for the things that we desire not manifesting themselves in our lives.  It is also the number one cause of illness, often because negative thinking, bitterness and gal comes from unforgiveness and left unchecked in the body, produces toxins which can manifest themselves in the form of disease such as cancer.  This is what unresolved pain and hurt from past relationships can do to our present ones.   We do not forgive for the other person as much as for ourselves. Letting people off the hook for the things they  have done – big and small – is extremely important for releasing wonderful things into our lives. As difficult as it is to forgive; it’s more difficult to live a life of mediocrity and with just enough money or not enough love.  Aren’t we asking the Universe in asking for what we desire to “forgive us our trespasses as WE forgive those who trespass against us”?  This is why it is imperative to resolve issues and forgive others; not so much for them and to let them off the hook, but  ultimately to free ourselves to fully attract safe, loving relationships in our present.

# 5:  Our Language:

Attracting what we want is a twofold effort.  We must be sure that our thoughts and beliefs match our words and that our words match our actions.  We must repeat our affirmations daily and as often as we can; but we must also be sure that the energy we give our words matches our true desire and feelings about what we perceive we will have once our desire is manifested.  For example, if you imagine that finding love will bring you happiness, joy, contentment and peace then your words to attract your mate must mirror this in their energy.  Simply, when you say, “I am deserving of a wonderful romantic life-mate or husband/wife” say it with as much joy, happiness and energy as you can muster.  It is not our words that attract what we desire so much as it is the energy we exude when we think and say them.

From “Me” to “We”:  Revising Our Love List

In addition, something that became very useful to me was not only what I thought and said but what I wrote.  Instead of writing a list of “I wants” in a partner, let us attempt to write a list that encompasses both people’s needs and desires once  we find each other.  For example, “We share in wonderful experiences and share common goals.”  This makes it less about meeting our own needs and meeting the needs of the relationship as a whole.  I have included a sample of my own revised list from “me” to “we”.

In revising my own list, I have put an intention out to the universe of what I truly want in a partner and will not settle for second best again – ever!!!!

Do Not Strive to Find Perfection; Strive to find a Perfect Mate for You

Will everything be perfect?  Of course not.  We need to recognize that we have areas of individual growth and maturity on which to work and we need to understand this is also true with respect to how we communicate and respond to each other within a relationship.  I don’t know of a perfect relationship out there; I only know of couples who are willing to work together for a mutually respectful, loving, fun, romantic relationship and ones where people give up because the other person is not perfect or has issues. I have realized a few revelations after having a long-term relationship with myself:

#1:  The adage that “There is no perfect person; only a person with whom you can live with his/her imperfections” is absolutely true.

#2:  We need to forgive the other person for their idiosyncrasies if we expect to be forgiven for ours!

#3:  Find the humour in everything you share – even your annoyances.  It is sometimes beneficial to exchange a list of things that are your pet peeves (or were in past relationships) – a kind of non-wish list that we hope the other person will respect right off the bat so that silly, unimportant issues will not cause problems between you and your partner later on.   Even though these seem like trivial items,  they represent respect and attempting to make each other’s lives a little more peaceful.  We have enough annoying things to deal with such as traffic and everyday occurrences that when we come home we would rather not deal with unnecessary annoyances from each other.

#4:  We will never find the perfect person and if we continue to expect it, we will end up perfectly single for the rest of our lives.

Of course, it is never good to settle for less than what we want or to ever tolerate abuse of any kind, but if the issues with our partner are every day issues that every other couple experiences from time to time, then we can try to work through them and move on from them.  The truth is every person we meet or date is simply a reflection of ourselves and guess what?  If we dump the person we are with, we will inevitably end up looking in the same mirror with the next person we choose until we truly face the reasons why we continue to attract these qualities in someone else.

The “Me” to “We” List for Attracting the Love You Desire:

I am so happy and grateful for my romantic relationship!

  1.  I am enjoying a wonderful, romantic, mutually exclusive, respectful, fun and emotionally, mentally, physically, sexually, financially healthy and fulfilling relationship that leads to marriage, with a wonderful person.
  2. We feel an effortless and easy connection with each other.
  3. We are attracted to each other very much.
  4. We genuinely love each other.
  5. We share similar spiritual and philosophical outlooks.
  6. We feel inspired and excited by each other and by our lives together.
  7. We feel at ease and comfortable with each other.
  8. We understand and reciprocate compassion for each other.
  9. We share in wonderful conversations and common activities that we really enjoy.

10.We respect and admire each other for who we are.

11.We both love the water, share excitement about boating, water activities and owning a home and a cottage on the water.

12.We share similar dreams and goals for our lives with passion, volunteer work, and enjoying life and travelling.

13.We feel at ease and safe in our love for each other.

14.We make each other want to be better people.

15.We are proud of each other and support each other in the things in which we believe and do.

16.We make each other feel loved, beautiful, (he feels manly) wanted, sexy and we only want to be with each other.

17.We are both open-minded and open-hearted to each other, other people and the needs of our global community.

18.We feel heard and understood by each other.

19.We have fun and laugh together every single day!

20.We feel like we are each other’s soul mate.

I challenge you to revise your list if it has been primarily “I” based and change it around to encompass the things in which you desire to share with your partner – a mutually beneficial relationship that is a win-win for both of you once you find each other.  And be sure, you will find each other!